Candace, 08 October 2007, No comments
Categories: Life

This post is more about questions than answers.

There’s a lot of pressure on us to succeed: be a good parent, partner, child, employee, employer, friend. It doesn’t seem to ever end. Do we act based on what we desire, what we think is best for us, what we think we’re supposed to do?

Do we step on a track and just keep following where it leads, without evaluating whether or not it’s what we should really be doing?

The problem with the pressure to succeed is the fear of failing. Failure is such a loaded word. It’s hard to accept failure in one part of our lives and not let it affect other areas. For instance, just because parenting is the pits at any given time, doesn’t mean we can’t still be a good partner. Or just because we’re thinking that dropping out of school makes the most sense given life/family responsibilities doesn’t mean we can’t be a good employee.

These things don’t have to be connected but the message to be superwoman — to do it all — to be the best — is so strong that it’s hard to keep a head up when things are looking dim.


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  1. jacqui583
    09 October 2007, 10:04 am

    Excellent points. Also; why is it we see things as failures instead of setbacks? If we’re honest with ourselves we can find all kinds of good things we’ve done in each arena, yet we sometimes only see the things that crashed and burned or even just didn’t quite work out. We need to focus more on the little successes that we do each and every day.

  2. Candace
    09 October 2007, 10:06 am

    I think part of it is that it’s easier to be positive when we’re looking back — not so easy when we’re in crisis.

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