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Home again, home again, jiggety jig

Yazan: Candace | 25 September 2007 | No Comments
Categories: Canadiana, Culture, Divorce, Family, Feminism, Happy, Life, Marriage, Relationships

My daughter should be home by 4:30 p.m. today. Today the judge ordered her father to return her to me. He was found in contempt of court and read the riot act. What a relief. It’s been a week and a half since he took her.

I’ll buy you a pony

Yazan: Candace | 20 September 2007 | 2 Comments
Categories: Bodies, Canadiana, Divorce, Family, Feminism, Life, Marriage, Relationships, School, Women's Studies

Every divorced parent’s nightmare is probably that their child goes for visitation with the other parent and never comes back again. I never thought it would happen to me. But it did. My daughter went for the weekend with her dad, didn’t go to her aikido class, hasn’t been to school all week, and didn’t […]

Postpartum support

Yazan: Candace | 13 September 2007 | No Comments
Categories: Birth, Canadiana, Family, Feminism, Life, Relationships, Women's Studies

Canada’s most famous midwife (according to me at least),Gloria Lemay, wrote this sample letter in 2001 for families to share after the birth of a new baby. I don’t think she’d mind at all if you edited it to fit your family’s circumstances. The main point of it is that you please ask for help […]

Real Estate for the Dead

Yazan: Candace | 18 June 2007 | No Comments
Categories: Activism, Canadiana, Culture, Ecofeminism, Environment, Family, Life, Relationships

Please note: This post is not meant to criticize or offend anyone who has experienced a death of friend of family and has had to make these decisions. It’s only intent is to bring attention to a practice that seems to me to go unquestioned, when there may be other, viable alternatives worthy of consideration. […]

FĂȘted – Fated

Yazan: Candace | 03 June 2007 | No Comments
Categories: Academia, Culture, Family, Life, Relationships, School

I tend to blame myself. Maybe it’s that guilty recovering Catholic conscience. Whenever something bad happens (not far away, just close to me) I find myself scrutinizing my actions and role in the event and wondering where I made a mistake and what I should have done differently. Note — not wondering *if* I made […]

A tree!

Yazan: Candace | 01 June 2007 | No Comments
Categories: Environment, Family, Gardening, Happy, Life, Relationships

Rob and I have been working on the house. When we’re finished what we have planned I’ll be loading up, distributing the duplicate stuff, and relocating 10 minutes up the street. A blended family! I’m pretty excited. It’s a lot of work but it’s all fun. Today when I went to a friend’s house to […]

Good feeling from 43 things

Yazan: Candace | 14 May 2007 | Comments Off on Good feeling from 43 things
Categories: Academia, Culture, Family, Gardening, Happy, Life, Relationships, School

I got this in my email this morning from 43things and it gave me such a good feeling. One week ago today I handed in my last exam and met with my advisor to discuss my major paper. Here’s what the email said: Dear future self, I’m reminding you about your stated goal on 43 […]

Bucking the System

Yazan: Candace | 14 February 2007 | No Comments
Categories: Activism, Bodies, Culture, Diversity, Divorce, Family, Feminism, Feminist Theory, Happy, Language, Life, Marriage, Masculinity, Relationships, Sexism, Sexuality, Third Wave, Women's Studies

When you decide that things aren’t quite right and that you have the power to make changes in the world, however large or small those changes might be, you leave the path. You can no longer follow the map of your youth, the instruction book your parents gave you, or mimic the decisions made by […]

No amount of capsaicin

Yazan: Candace | 21 December 2006 | No Comments
Categories: Bodies, Food, Life, Relationships

No amount of capsaicin will kill this cold. At this point, officially Day 3, I’ve lost my appetite anyway though if someone wanted to make me a bowl of spicy lentil soup I would give eating it my best effort. I’ve drained a bottle of hot sauce and it doesn’t seem to have done a […]

How many rainbows does it take?

Yazan: Candace | 19 December 2006 | No Comments
Categories: Aging, Divorce, Family, Life, Relationships

Happy Birthday to me. I have a bit of a cold but I’m dosing with mega-Vitamin C and echinacea-goldenseal tincture. I wrote my last exam today, I proctored the exam for the last class as TA for the semester and I’m about halfway through the marking. Later Rob is taking me for dinner and there […]

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